Whether you choose to use an online pseudonym or not is entirely your choice, I totally understand why some people choose to, looking back I’m not sure if I would have preferred to now. In this post I’ll be talking about why I ultimately chose not to use a pseudonym, how I’m trying to balance sharing bookish content and more lifestyle content as well as keeping certain aspects of my life private. Privacy is important friends, particularly because not everything needs to be shared online.
I stumbled across this meme whilst blog hopping…I did get round to snooping at some of the blogs everyone’s been nominating. Rukky was one of them and I am officially in love with her blog! As I was waddling about I discovered the Let’s Talk Bookish meme. I don’t normally like or do memes, however this weeks topic was just too interesting, for me to pass so here we are!
Why I Go By Clo And Not Chloe
(unless you’re a special peep who can full name me when I’m not behaving ahem hi soph, who regularly full names me ily)
In short I’m not a huge fan of Chloe. In my day to day life nearly everyone uses Chloe to address me, it’s rare anyone says “Clo” to me. At the start of my blogging journey I was seriously considering, going by my middle name of Eloise online, it’s still part of my name. It would also help create some separation. Back in the early days of me having social media I used @/eloisethewriter as my username so my middle name was already being used online. It made a lot of sense for me to use Eloise.
I didn’t. As you can all see by now, I chose to use my nickname for several reasons. Whilst Eloise is my middle, I don’t respond to it, whether verbally or written down. Whilst you are welcome to call me Chloe, I just feel like it’s overly formal? That line of thinking maybe because throughout my entire life only one teacher has ever used my nickname, my entire family have always called me Chloe so I am very used to my full name being used in formal settings I suppose. With friends though, I’m Clo or whatever other nickname you come up with for me.
For me personally there was already that distinction between Chloe and Clo for me to feel like I could go by Clo online and feel like that’s who I am. I may be called Chloe but I’m a Clo…without a h. (Chlo is another spelling of the nickname but I’m not a fan of it, the h just looks awkward but it’s ok if you typo it or mess up. I won’t tear you to pieces for using the h xD It’s literally just a pet peeve of mine)
I guess it came down to me wanting to be as true to myself as possible, I totally could’ve gone by Eloise, Chloe or picked a random name I liked. I admire all of you who do use a different name online because I literally would not respond. I go by Clo because that’s the name that resonates with me the most, just like purple is the colour I resonate with…and why purple is everywhere.
if i could my blog would be all purple but no one needs to be attacked by all the purple
Balancing Bookish With Lifestyle
I am still trying to find this balance. I don’t post reviews on the blog, I may do again someday but right now, I’m happy without them. I don’t enjoy writing reviews. I do enjoy talking about book related topics, life related topics and overall connecting and helping my fellow booklovers. I personally love it when my favourite bloggers branch into other topics like lifestyle, all of us have various things to contribute to the world, to the internet. We are all knowledgeable in certain things and we’ve all experienced various things, I love reading about people’s uni experiences. I have no plans to go to Uni but I still love the posts.
As you can tell in the past, I do blog about my personal life, I share certain aspects of it on my blog. There’s a lot though that I won’t share on my blog. Some of it will be shared on a Discord server or in my close friends DMs because they’re close friends and sometimes we all need someone to turn to. I do have this fear that people won’t like my lifestyle content on this blog. I just keep reminding myself that people will connect to different parts of me, some may connect to a lifestyle post about self care whilst others may connect to a bookish post. Typically though when I make friends in the community/really love a bloggers blog, I will read pretty much anything they post.
Your blog is your space. Just be mindful that you do have an influence, your words can impact other people even if you’re a small blog.
I think there’s this huge problem with sharing for validation and sometimes oversharing our lives on social media. I’m talking with the mass population, some of us will treat social media as a diary, the thing is..it’s not. Then there’s people who only show the highlights of their life, or a ‘highlight reel’ so to speak, which creates this illusion that their life is nothing but sunshine and rainbows. It can make the rest of us feel this need to post photos of certain parts of our own lives to feel validated. (if you do this, then hi I hope you know you shouldn’t be looking for validation in algorithms and the amount of likes a photo gets).
For some people their life is also their work, take lifestyle YouTubers for instance, they are creating content and sharing their life to make a living. I can’t imagine how hard it must be to figure out what aspects they should keep private and what aspects they should share. Do you share your relationship online or keep it private? Do you talk about your mental health struggles publicly online or not? How much should you let people in because once they’re in, it’s hard to get them back out.
With a blog I do feel like it’s easier to keep areas of your life private, we’re not video based, so the only way people can see what we look like, what our rooms and things look like is if we choose to post photos online. That’s a choice each of us must make. There’s no right or wrong way either, it’s your life and you need to choose how much you’re comfortable putting out there.
For me I’m comfortable sharing selfies, sharing photos of my room…I’m ok sharing photos of things I own because it’s mine. There may be certain things I share privately though, so only a select group of people are able to see it, they could still screenshot it but uhm they’re trusted friends so I would hope they wouldn’t.
So many of us live our lives through the lens, through a filter because we seek validation from likes, comments and retweets on social media. The only validation you need in your life is yours.
Ahem slight tangent but something I adore is watching the sunrise. I enjoy sitting in my garden and staring at the sky, enjoying the moment of just being alive. I don’t always share those moments, I may talk about them on social media. I may choose to take a photo sometimes of the sunrise…it depends. Sometimes I want those moments to myself.
The same applies to all aspects of our lives, you need to keep some things for yourself, for yourself and close friends/family. It’s ok to have privacy…I don’t talk about my work a lot. I do work, and I am working towards being a teaching assistant but I won’t talk about it all that much. Work life is private for me. That’s something I chose for now to keep private. My face is not private, it’s online and will be for the rest of the internets days.
I feel like this is a rather rambly post but as Soph once said ‘It’s not a Clo post without a ramble’ 😉 Do you use a pseudonym? How do you navigate what to share online and what not to? Let me know your thoughts down in the comments!