Blogging has taught me so much, I’ve gained new skills, learned that I am terrible at using commas correctly, made amazing friends and so much more! However I’ve also learned a lot about myself, for instance I love schedules but they can also be the reason for my burn outs. Even though this month I’ll have been blogging for 3 years, I still catch myself comparing my blog, my journey to others. In the spirit of my blog turning 3 this month I’m going to be sharing 3 important lessons my blog’s taught me.
Sometimes Rigidity Only Serves To Break You
Perhaps the hardest lesson I learned, was that having a rigid schedule only served to break me into pieces, as I broke myself apart, trying to make sure I met this schedule I’d created. My own schedule, my own organisation wasn’t helping me, it was running me to the ground. For some slight background info on myself, I really like sticking to schedules, I don’t like missing things that I schedule and I like things to look consistent and have a nice pattern in my bujo. So I really struggled with schedules, I tried so many different schedules, posting 4 times a week, 3 times a week, alternating days, testing different spacing and time of posting.
In the end though, I’ve learned I work best when I have a flexible schedule, so that means drawing out monthly calendars in my bujo and pencilling in when I’d ideally like posts to go up. That then means, I can erase it if I change my mind of I missed the post. It gives me breathing room and means I don’t need to get the post up that day. I learned that flexibility works wonders for me, so now I’m no longer stressing out over blog posts, or burning myself to the ground. Schedules, a bit like ratings, are subjective. What works for one blogger won’t work for another, which can make it tricky to find your own.
Ask for advice, read up on people’s schedules but remember, your schedule shouldn’t be draining you of energy and making you so stressed you’re coiled and ready to unravel. Or that you can’t sleep at night because your mind is buzzing with all the things you need to get done for your blog. There may not be a right or wrong book blogging schedule but there sure as hell is a healthy and unhealthy schedule. Prioritise your own health and well being lovely!
You’re Enough, Your Blog Is Enough
I think we all get into this mindset that our blog’s aren’t enough. That we’re somehow not enough. Whether it’s because we feel we’re not churning out content often enough, feeling guilty for constantly being on a hiatus. The list is endless. In the 3 years of blogging, I’ve seriously thought about quitting a handful of times. I’ve had a meltdown where I’ve just been sat crying over my blog because I feel like it’s not enough. That I’m less than and that may I should just quit.
I didn’t. We can thank my online friends for reminding me that my blog is wonderful and that I’m not a failure of a blogger. It can be really hard to love your blog when you view it as something that constantly needs improving upon. For me it’s always been the graphics, the visuals of my blog have caused me the most pain. Now though my blog truly feels like me. Ahem because I am purple and purple is me xD
I want you to take a moment to just sit and reflect on your blog, on all the posts you’ve spent hours creating, all the friends you’ve made. The books you’ve read! Look at what you’ve created, isn’t it beautiful? Isn’t your blog wonderful and your blog is enough, so are you. Please remember that, when you feel like throwing your blog away.(Of course if you do want to quit then the community supports you because overall we are a community, who has each others best interests at heart. Who else can best understand the struggles of blogging than our fellow bloggers?)
Breathe, Be Still, Take A Step Back
The second hardest lesson for me has been learning when to take a step back. Accepting that I need breaks and that I need to go on a hiatus has been really hard. I like to be constantly on the go, creating content, doing things. I’m actually writing this whilst on my hiatus so hi, hello. Taking my most recent hiatus has honestly felt like a breath of fresh air. I originally took it so I could focus on my course, now it’s because of my course and blog maintenance. You know, the glamorous side to blogging none of us know we’re in for when we first start *chuckles*.
I needed to sort out my blog categories, which I have done as well as sort out all my blog posts. That’s still an ongoing task at the time of writing this. Back to my point, people take hiatuses for all sorts of reasons and I was always supportive of others taking a hiatus. Yet I couldn’t support myself going on hiatus. Whilst 2020 hasn’t been the year we were all expecting, back in December of 2019, it has been a year of growth for myself. Not only learning when to go on a hiatus but learning how to be still in a world that constantly promotes a hustle culture. There’s so much more of course, like reconnecting with nature and the casual magic of seeing the sunrise/sunset. We constantly feel like we should be on the go that we miss out on so many small things that can light us up inside. (for me some of the little things are waking up early, seeing the sunrise, walking among nature, which I am able to do as I live in a village surrounded by nature.)
Remember to listen to your body, to your intuition/gut and take breaks. Maybe you only need a day or a week, perhaps your month break turned into 2 and a bit. That’s ok. Blogging for the majority of us is a hobby so remember to look after yourselves. Your hobby isn’t going anywhere.
I hope you all enjoyed this post and hopefully you took something away from it 🙂 It’s honestly wild that this month my blog turns 3 haha. How long have you been blogging? What’s something blogging has taught you? Lemme know in the comments!